In the words of the immortal rolling stones, "You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes well you might find You get what you need"
Life is a series of compromises. You'll not have your say always. Learning to hear no, to face defeat, to get rejected is a great skill. It lasts you a lifetime and helps you at myriad different places in life even if it leads to dejection currently.
Life is not a bed of rose. It's something we all know but yet we expect to be presented a rose every time we walk into lives different arenas. Walking in is an opportunity but just that. It isn't a surety of success. Expecting chickens from your eggs well before they are hatched may only lead to allusions of what you possess.
There is a line between what you want and need. It might be a fine line but it does exist. And so often we blur it to forget the demarcations. Just because everyone else has it at this point doesn't make it your need. It still is something you want. You may be very eager to achieve it but understanding that you can't always get what you want is important. You need to give yourself time. Most often, this amount of time is just a bit more than what you think you have.
The bladerdashing talk of people around you would make you feel that you are losing on something you most certainly need. But those people shouldn't and actually don't affect what your needs are. It's something you and only you can decide. In waiting for the right time to get what you want, you lose hope, give up on your effort, leave it to everything else and resign to your fate.
Not achieving something in the first, second, third or fifteenth go might well be a matter to sadden you. But you have been through 365 days of challenges every year. I might sound very prophetic, but the fact that I write this is because I realise this and if ever I was disappointed it would have been for a small period. Keeping your heads is essential in any confusion, problem or situation. REMEMBER.
The phase is excrutiating.The mind of the despondent is a livewire.He has eternity of nothingness in his life.What does he do?He looks toward his friend.
ReplyDeleteA man is known (and survived) by the company he keeps.Chums like you make it easy for the bereaved to get along in a lot where they can easily think of themselves as a social outcast.
Its been a long time since our careers were wrenched and you started riding on a 3.16 high, but I haven't seen any difference in your behaviour.
Maybe it is to make us feel comfortable.Maybe it is just the way you are.I'll never know.Or you'll never show.But its a respite to know that you are not celebrating Christmas everynight, although you deserve to.
There isn't much that I can say to this.
ReplyDeleteJust that I try and act to the best of my conscience always and realise it isn't about YOU everytime.