So often in life we carry on with the current, going with the flow. What we tread on sometimes leads us away from realities. Going along, we assume a couple of things (just a couple). Then we build upon these assumptions and then create for ourselves the alternate realities. The reality checks are needed from time to time to take you back to the actual realities. We are always ready to move away from the real to the convenient. Assuming that the other person loves you, respects you, trusts you, just the way you do might be convenient for you; but might still be far from the actual. In life you rarely have equal and opposite emotions. What you give is solely what you give and in no way means that it's what you'll get. The reality more often than not strikes you like a lightening, you put so much of yourself in the alternate reality that the actual makes you lose yourself. What we need to do is have these reality checks more often, so that you catch the fantasies early enough