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First and Last among Equals!!!!




Every individual enters school as an equal among his cohorts, the classmates. Children are distinguished in school, the top 1 percent opting for the international schools and the rest classified into the the convents, the public and the govt. schools. But in that school among your classmates you are equal, a sense of equality prevails.

Then when we enter college there is divisions in that group of equals, when some make it to IITs and NITs, rest going to UPTUs and the others opting out or going for other courses. But again the equal chunk in more or less equal.

The real difference starts to appear after college, when the equals get the centrifugal thrust. Everyone disperses from the centre of equality and keep on going far away from each other as time progresses. The IItians start getting what you expect 5 years from now. Even your own colleagues, start off on their own road of destiny.

This is where comparisons must be avoided, as they can be lethal, and destiny be respected. One should also not have a retro-spective view in life and carry the regrets into the future. Everyone has his own destiny and must respect what is there in for him. We get stuck at looking for what we didn't achieve in life or how less we have achieved as compared to others, that we fail to acknowledge our own achievements.

The key to living satisfactorily and happily is to avoid getting into comparisons and looking at the wonderful time you had being equals. There is no reason why we can't be the same equals again and recreate the old times. This, 5 or 10 years from now will be the key to maintaining the friendship.

"Happiness is a reflection of how happy you want to be."

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