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Life is not Fair- Accept it!!!


The human mind is hungry for reason - a reason for every failure. The lust for reason demands justification for everything that happens to them. But so many times things happens because someone was at a wrong place, at a wrong time or with a wrong person. There isn't a reason to explain why every time it's you who has to slog to achieve small things in life while your friends have had it so easy in their lives. Why is it that you had to support your family while others were enjoying their lives? Why is it that in the same world some don't have enough to afford a meal a day while others are spending lakhs to fight obesity? Why is it that for some sex is the ultimate pleasure while for others it's their only means to support family?

The irony is that the world is after establishing a just and fair society in an inherently unfair natural environment. There is no parameter to decide what fair actually is. Is death sentence a fair deal for Nirbhaya's rapists? Is it fair that people know only of Nirbhaya and that she received all the assistance while similar others continue to live in oblivion each day? The parameters for fairness are set by the powerful and they decide what's fair in the game. This is what the US has been doing for the past few decades. This is why attacking Iraq is fair and so is the Israel occupation of Gaza.

The saying that you achieve only as much as you work for it, is a myth. The result is something which is not in your hand and so often the hardest worker may not get the best results. The fact is that there is no meritocracy in this world. At least not in the absolute sense. All our lives we have been led by false assumptions that working harder will lead us to greater heights.

The game is all about probabilities. By working hard you only increase your probability of success, with no guarantee. Those who realise and accept this as a fact of life live a more satisfied and happier life. There is no point crying foul when there was never a 100% chance of success. So often we are so obsessed with our fallacies that we end up cursing others. It was not fair for Nirbhaya that day. It is not fair for the man who's battling this chill out in the dark tonight. It is not fair that the guy who never came to any class scored more than you because of cheating. But it never was fair and it never will be in your life. Accept it and move on. There isn't a reason, always. 

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